This study series explores Soka Spirit topics to be presented by a youth or student division member at Soka 2030 meetings. Because the last official day of SGI-USA activities is Dec. 15, this article can be presented at Dec. 14 Soka 2030 meetings.
From ugly sweater parties and gift exchanges to company celebrations and large family dinners, the holiday season is filled with all kinds of gatherings. Spending time with loved ones can be joyful, stressful or a mix of both.
When we have stressful exchanges with family or friends, our Buddhist practice can help us make them less stressful, reminding us of the inherent Buddha nature within ourselves and others.
A powerful way to do this is through engaging in shakubuku. This vital aspect of our Buddhist practice is not simply about introducing people to Buddhism; it’s a way to challenge our negativity, deepen our compassion and reaffirm the dignity of each person’s life.
The Heart of Shakubuku: Our Compassion and Conviction
Shakubuku is an expression of our belief in the Buddha nature of all people—an effort to affirm the priceless value each person possesses.
We might at times feel hesitant or even judgmental, wondering whether someone will be open to hearing about Buddhism. But by chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo and striving to share Buddhism, we learn to recognize that negativity and overcome it, developing what Ikeda Sensei calls “the heart of shakubuku.” This heart, he says, comprises two aspects: compassion for others and conviction in Buddhism. He goes on to explain:
In terms of our own practice, compassion for others means concern for our friends’ happiness and well-being; specifically, it manifests as tireless perseverance and the courage to talk to people in depth about the correct teaching of Buddhism. Conviction in the principles of Buddhism means unshakable belief in the teachings of the Lotus Sutra, which proclaim that all people can attain Buddhahood and that everyone has the right to become happy.[1]
As we plant seeds of Buddhism, our capacity for compassion expands, changing our relationships. Rather than focusing on others’ shortcomings, we begin to see their positive qualities and empathize with their struggles. In this way, we can break through the ignorance in our own lives and help others do the same.
This practice of shakubuku is both a means and an end. Each time we share Buddhism with others, we deepen our faith and sharpen our conviction, like forging a sword that cuts through internal doubts and external challenges.
Inheriting the Respectful Spirit of Bodhisattva Never Disparaging
When we talk with others about Buddhism, some might become defensive, dismissive or even insulting. But those reactions often stem from mistrust or fear, which we are aiming to help them overcome.
Sensei reminds us that when faced with hostility, we shouldn’t quarrel or become belligerent. Instead, rooted in compassion, we can continue to warmly explain the benefits and humanistic principles of Buddhism.[2]
Here, we can learn from Bodhisattva Never Disparaging, described in the Lotus Sutra’s 20th chapter. He always bowed to all people, expressing his profound respect and wish for everyone’s enlightenment.[3] When faced with abuse, he still upheld his vow to respect the Buddha nature in all people, even if he needed to keep a safe distance. This spirit lies at the heart of shakubuku.
Sensei says, “Through embracing this vow as our own and engaging in the great struggle to accomplish it, we can develop and strengthen our lives.”[4]
In other words, by chanting, bringing forth our compassion and engaging in shakubuku with a sincere wish for everyone’s happiness, we can defeat our own devilish nature and deepen our respect for self and others.
As we move through this holiday season, keeping this in mind can help us turn gatherings into opportunities to deepen our bonds and bring out the best in ourselves and those around us.
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