A Simple Note of Encouragement
After a teen attempted suicide, a teacher set out to show her students they are special.
by Sarah Larimer
© 2016, THE WASHINGTON POST
It was, Brittni Darras said, the first time she had ever cried at a parent-teacher conference.
Ms. Darras, a 25-year-old English teacher at a Colorado high school, was speaking with a mother, who came to the meeting with a list of her daughter’s teachers.
Next to each of the names was a “yes” or “no,” indicating whether the girl wanted her mother to reveal the reason she hadn’t been in classes for a couple weeks, Ms. Darras said.
“And so when her mom sat down, she said, ‘you have a yes next to your name,’ ” Ms. Darras said.
So the mother relayed the story: Her daughter had deleted her social media accounts and written letters to those closest to her. That she had attempted suicide. That the police rushed in and stopped her, and the girl was missing school because she was recovering in a hospital.
“And her mom was sitting there in tears,” Ms. Darras told The Washington Post. “I started crying. Her mom said that she had no idea.”
Ms. Darras wrote a letter to the girl, delivered to the hospital via the girl’s mother, telling her how much she cared, how the girl was missed in class, and that they wanted her back.
“Her daughter’s reaction was that she was amazed that somebody could say such sweet things, because she didn’t think anybody would miss her if she was gone,” Ms. Darras said.
That, Ms. Darras said, was when she realized “something had to be done.”
“Because hearing that from somebody who is so bright, so beautiful, so fun—to understand that she didn’t think that she had a purpose, she didn’t think that anybody cared, that’s the hardest thing,” Ms. Darras said.
Here’s what Ms. Darras did: Over a two-month span, she composed about 130 notes that went to all of her students. The messages were handwritten, so the students knew each note was authentic.
She wrote cards in an airport, during a weekend trip. She wrote them at school, during odd hours after everyone else had left for the day. She sat on her back porch and wrote. Then, after the students finished their final exams, she handed out the cards before the bell rang, she said.
Ms. Darras said she didn’t think they’d even feel comfortable reading the cards on the spot. But they did open them. One student jumped up and held her card in the air, saying she’d keep it forever. Parents emailed, saying their sons or daughters shared the notes.
As her last class filed out of the room, Ms. Darras said, every single student gave her a hug on the way out the door.
“Which was really powerful,” she said.
Ms. Darras said she hoped her effort was a reminder that everyone has the capacity to make a difference—even with a simple note of encouragement. Or, in her case, 130 notes of encouragement.